Did you ever have one of those moments when you knew the universe has it all mapped out?
Well about 12 months ago I got a viral infection, or man flu as my wife, Sonya Hudson, put it, any way it got so bad that I was dragged into the weekend clinic at our local hospital. I waited only a few minutes and was in to see the doctor, who was a breath of fresh air to me.
I have met many doctors who have had terrible people skills, if you know what I mean please nod! so here was a doctor, who was both knowledgeable and passionate. I remember thinking a few more of these people could turn the NHS around! Any way back to last week and a new client, yes Matt still does the odd one to one sessions, the presenting problem being “blushing”.
As we talked I realised that I had met my client before, I just couldn’t quite figure out where? She had had various attempts at getting rid of her problem through different therapeutic channels, all to no avail. Many of them insisted that she must have had a terrible event happen to her when she was a child? Go figure!
No, this problem actually began when she was at University, away from home, finals coming up, lecturer bent on singling her out from the group, a relationship that didn’t fit her culture so her family suggested that she had brought shame on them, you put that lot together and bam! Something has to give. Mary had done nothing ethically wrong but nevertheless, she believed that she had, so whenever from that point forward, any one ever asked her about her family or who she was, poof! A wonderful shade of red and boy did she feel terrible about it.
So do you have any part of your life that when you think about it now causes you to believe that you are to old, to young, fat ,thin, clever, stupid, etc,. What do you believe about that belief…? You see it’s not about what happens to you that effects you in your life, no, it’s what you believe about it that counts. So what I am saying is if you whine enough about your problems sure enough you will get more, the universe will send you everything you believe you deserve.
Mary believed she was a 2 out of 10 person and that I was a 9 out of 10 therapist so when I told her she was the doctor who inspired me a year ago and I believed her to be a 9 her jaw dropped as she had only done 4 days and I met her on one them for 4 minutes. Her belief in herself changed dramatically. By shifting your beliefs you shift the universe itself.
So do you believe you deserve more?
Is everyone you meet called Mary?